Update (May 16, 2012):

These interviews are just awesome, as they provide great assistance and support on the subject of pleasing others, I can just recommend them to anyone:

• The Internal Battle with Pleasing Others

• Expecting Appreciation from Others

Following is the original post/writing:

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think and believe that I have to be nice, in the sense of doing things for people, because I fear that otherwise people won’t like me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear that people do not like me if I am not nice to them = if I don’t do their work or give them what they want / request from me or even offer myself voluntarily to do things for them.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to voluntarily offer myself to do things / work from others for others, so I might make the impression that I’m a nice guy.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to try to make the best possible first impression = showing that I am a nice and not-judging guy.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear to ‘fuck’ my first impression on people ‘up’ because I fear that this will ruin the relationship with that person.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear to not ‘get along well’ with people because I fear that they hate me in their minds.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear that people hate me in their minds because I derive my self-worth and courage from the fact whether others like or dislike me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think and believe that everyone / everything has to like me and within that desire try hard to make it happen through being ‘nice’ = doing everything for people.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that there are always people who will dislike me if I don’t accept and support their opinions and ‘philosophy of life’.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think and believe that it actually matters if people / others like me or not instead of realizing that all that matters is being self-honest in and as creating myself to honor life equally within and as everyone/ everything / all.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that my main focus / priority should be on self-honesty, in making sure I honor all life equally and make sure to correct myself if I don’t do so – instead of being concerned with making people like me.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that I have trapped myself within a mind-reality where the very fear of being disliked is the prison and that in actual reality (physical reality) it’s in fact not so that I’m hated by people like I fear / believe in my mind.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear being hated instead of realizing that it doesn’t matter if people hate me or not, but what matters is to accept myself and be self-honest in making sure to honor all life equally, no matter what.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear to not serve our customers quickly enough because I fear that they get mad at me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear to make the customers mad by not serving them quickly enough or not having the products in stock they ask for, because I fear that they get loud.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear that customers / people get loud, yelling / shouting at me, because I fear that it will attract the attention of all other people at me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear that people stare at me because it makes me uncomfortable.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel uncomfortable when many people, especially strangers, stare at me because I fear that they all judge me and support / stand behind each others judgement, where the judgement becomes like a unified huge one towards me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear that many people share the same and stand behind the other persons judgement towards / of me, because I feel hopeless and helpless with that peer-group pressure.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear that people share the same and / or stand / backup another persons judgement of / towards me — because that makes two or more (them) against one (me) and in that scenario / relation I am helpless / powerless.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to exist within and as the “Two or more AGAINST me”-type of mentality and feel helpless and powerless, wanting to cry, in such scenarios.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear being judged because I think and believe that that means that the one judging me is AGAINST me, seeing me as an enemy.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think, believe and fear that the judging person is AGAINST me and seeing me as his / her enemy and within that I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear that people are against me and see me as their enemy because I fear that they will ‘hurt’ me / make my life hell and that I’ll be helpless / powerless / unable to do anything against it.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear making and having foes because I fear conflict, and therefor within and through that very fear — try to please everyone as hard as possible — so I might prevent making foes, and so avoid conflict / confrontation.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear conflict / debates / argumentation / explanation with others because I fear to lose.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear to lose an argumentation / explanation / debate / conflict / confrontation with another because I’m seeing the ‘conflict’ / ‘communication’ as a battle that I have to win / fear to lose.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel that I have to ‘win’ a debate / argumentation with another because I think and fear that it’s embarrassing to ‘lose’.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel and think that it’s embarrassing to ‘lose’ a debate / confrontation in communication with another because that might mean that I am / was not right —— but I always want to and feel that I have to be right.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to view the whole ‘debate’ / ‘argumentation’ / confrontation in / through communication with another — as ‘me’ against ‘him’ / ‘her’ instead of having it be an effective communication where I point out common-sense and remain self-honest and don’t exist in the mentality / mind-application / self-belief that I ‘know it all’ —— but actually listen to what the other person has to say / say and assess it with self-honesty and common-sense, and don’t play energy games where I feel that I have to ‘beat’ the other person through better arguments.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear to serve our customers something wrong because I fear to do wrong / failures.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear to do something wrong and make failures because I think and believe that it’s unacceptable and makes me weak and stupid.

You may also like to check this out:

• Day 22: Cause and Effect — Creation’s Journey to Life

• Accept and Allow – the Contract with Death: DAY 22 — Heaven’s Journey to Life

• Day 22: Wax and Wane — Attention Seeker Spoiler

• DAY 18: The “Fat and Ugly” Truth of Me

These interviews are just awesome, as they provide great assistance and support on the subject of pleasing others, I can just recommend them to anyone:

• The Internal Battle with Pleasing Others

• Expecting Appreciation from Others